SHOOT: Listening is a biggie. Easy for some, impossible for others.
Step #1: Smile and wave
Even though it may seem bold, smiling at strangers is the top way to let them know it’s safe to break through. Try it on everyone and anyone: the bored workers at the post office, a harried mother in front of you at the checkout aisle, or even the toddler sitting in her cart. As you get used to being a smiler, you’ll start doing it naturally — including at the people you most want to meet.
Step #2: Be the one who speaks first
Step #3: Work your chit-chat charm
So if you’re in the cereal aisle, don’t mutter to yourself, “Wow, expensive...” Turn to the object of your affection and say, “Wow, can you believe it? Almost six dollars for this! Is it just this brand or are they all so pricey?”
Step #4: Then... stop talking!
“People aren’t used to having other people really listen to them, so that’s how I win a lot of people over,” he says